Emotional Vs Physical accidents!
A limp, a fractured arm, a band-aid here and a bruise there – typical indicators of an accident. We all have met with such accidents (of varying degrees!) at one point or another in our life.
Pausing to think, are physical accidents the only ones? What about the sinking feeling in our hearts, what about the feeling where the whole world seems to be coming crashing down while you stand? They certainly make the case for what I would term as Emotional Accidents.
Points of comparison between Physical and Emotional Accidents:
1. No visible scars in Emotional Accidents – a swollen eye and a drooping body language may be the only tell tale signs
2. While physical accidents may involve strangers or unfamiliar places, the emotional accidents are predominantly from the known individuals – death of a beloved person, departure of a loved one, the back-stabbing from a trusted one. All these cut deeper.
3. Some physical accidents heal quickly while others take time and may leave no traces. Some may even have an impact for life like a permanent limp or a scar. Emotional accidents keep churning you from inside based on their severity. You may be distracted momentarily, but when the right time strikes, prepare to be deluged by thoughts if you are weak, leading to additional cycles if depression and self-doubt.
4. You may not even realise when an emotional accident happens. For example, you may have your dreams and ideas shot down as people around you are not able to identify with them. The effects unfold in the form of low self-esteem, reduced confidence and self-doubt.
The best part of emotional accidents is that you can identify them, and the moment you start realising that you are in such a situation, you can consciously control it and greatly dampen the effect.
You must have heard old people saying that fever is good because it will improve your immunity. Similarly, every emotional accident will contribute towards your EQ.
(D)iversion, (E)xpression, (A)cceptance and (L)ove – DEAL is the way to Deal with it!