What can a 50-day pup teach you?
Behave as if you own the place!
Laila went around the house sniffing her way through. Pausing every now and then to wag her tail and look back at us. If she had known the metric units, I am sure she could have given the dimensions of our house! Once she completed this complete survey, she then took the air of the mistress of the house and would strut proudly with her chest out! Every object in the house was now hers and we had to get her permission to take it back from her. And yes, anything that fell to the floor was her property first!
Love is unconditional:
We had no expectations except companionship. The poo-picking, the pee-wiping and regular feeding were actually chores that we did not have a problem with at all! With her tail wagging nineteen to the dozen, she would warmly welcome us at the doorstep, though we had left her alone for 3-4 hours. She would patiently follow us through the house, always at the heels without asking for anything. She would bite my saree just to grab my attention when I used to get busy with my work. She cuddled next to us for going to sleep and licked us until we rolled in laughter from the tickles we got!
Though a pup, she was easy to potty train. Poo/peeing on the furniture was a strict no-no and the balcony was the spot for her biological waste. She developed this alarm system of wriggling her body followed by a short nose based search and a short shrill bark – that meant we had to let her down. If she was on the ground, she needed no prodding and used to go about her business (except when it was too cold!). The best part was the regularity established. She had to have her Cerelac Stage 1 by 7:00 AM, followed by meals at 10:30 AM, 2:00 PM, 5:30 PM, 9:00 PM. If we ran late, we were reminded neatly by her strutting to the kitchen and back and the quick nips on our ankles and toes! If she wanted to pee/poop in the middle of the night, she just used to wriggle against us and whine a bit so that we woke up and let us down. Once done, she used to stand on her hind legs and give us a bark to ensure we lifted her onto the bed.
When you are teething, the whole world is a teether!
Be it the wooden legs of a stool, or my new Levi’s, or the chew toys or even our fingers and toes, Laila used every option to better her tooth growth. Every opportunity was utilized to grow. The more the variety, the faster the experience and the growth.
(D)iversion, (E)xpression, (A)cceptance and (L)ove – DEAL is the way to Deal with it!
The only promise that you should not break is the one you make with yourself!
We are all born equal. Our decisions in life have led to where we are today. We have always promised ourselves that we will be the best version of ourselves, no matter what. Then, why are we so ready to compromise our integrity and self-worth by,
– Being in a job that we hate or by being in a relationship that does not allow you to grow and be yourself
– Working under a supervisor who doesn’t give you due credit and rather is using you
– Working in an organisation that is not all white and everyday you are put in situations where your principles are challenged
– Working in an organisation where mediocrity and sycophancy are worshipped
– By promising ourselves that we will change and yet are caught in the cycle of monthly salary and dependency
– By not utilising our innate and acquired skills
– By making others wealthy wherein we could have established our own empires
– By helping others more than how we help ourselves
Let us take an example, you commit to yourself about writing that brilliant article that you wanted. You want to complete that today and you have sufficient time. Suddenly you get a call from your friend asking you to join in a party that he/she is hosting. You may go citing friendship as the reason, but at the end of the day, your article is not written. No one else but you are impacted. Your friendship is ‘strengthened’ you may say, but friendships that hinge on such weak principles – are they worth it?
You promise yourself that this weekend you will treat yourself and your spouse to that day trip that you have planned for months. Suddenly on Friday evening, your boss calls you and asks you to be in office to complete some work that had been unattended to so far. It was a pure mistake from your boss’ end and it was his inefficiency for not having completed the task earlier. You go to office citing ‘work is important’. But is a mistake of someone else worth your personal time?
If we continuously lie to ourselves and degrade ourselves – things are going to take a downward spiral very soon.
While you were busy pleasing the world, the world moves on leaving you in the lurch!
Take a hint from the king of Bollywood!
Keep your promises with yourself – it would be the best investment that you did any day.
Not crying – Is this really a symbol of strength?
During one of my sessions, I asked a 22 year old lady, “what is your biggest strength?” She replied that she never cries. On that, I asked her when was the last time she cried, and I got to know that it was some three years back.
I was amused at the misplaced definition of strength!
Men don’t cry, this is what is drilled into the minds of common people such that crying becomes synonymous to weakness. People who shed their tears are looked up as if they have shed valour and strength. It’s not only boys, but even girls have taken on this highly misplaced notion. The very nature of human when deeply troubled, when faced with a need to let off bottled emotions is to cry. As babies, we wailed our hearts out for milk, for attention, for love, for comfort, for expressing ourselves and for releasing our emotions.
Meditation, exercise, hobbies, they are all said to be great channels for letting go of negativity and negative emotions. But the lightness of heart that one feels after shedding a few tears can never be compared with. Crying for me is a ritual to let go. The emotion I feel is my sacrifice and the tears that I shed are my offering as a mark of respect for an event or a person while kissing them goodbye.
Crying is like bidding a fond farewell to the event or to the person, never to see again.. while cutting off the last of the strings that bond us. I cry at happy endings in movies, I cry after a life changing experience, I cry when i read amazing lines from authors, I cry when I achieve after my hard work, I cry at the love and affection that I get from my dearest, I cry from physical pains. An expression of love, a purge of the unnecessary emotions and a wonderful component of empathy – crying is all this and much more!
Imagine if everyone displayed their emotions instead of bottling it up – there would be no more outbursts, no more hatred and pent-up anger – would make the world a much better place!
Anybody can bottle up their feelings, it takes courage to cry, driven by the strength and will power to let go.
Love your Smile, deal with your Sadness, love your Happiness, handle your Sorrows, enjoy your Joys, enjoy your Pains, pat yourself for your Leaps, Own your Mistakes, Celebrate your Success, Learn from your Failures! No one is Perfect, so whatever the Situation is, never forget to Smile, to be Happy, to Enjoy and to live Every Moment of Life!
We were born to be Real, not to be Perfect!